Depression: Eeyore
For some reason, when I was younger and even still today, I would unwittingly end up counselling friends. Of course, I would hand it over to a school counsellor and/or someone with a degree. If your friend has depression and is coming to you for help, that’s also what you should do too, by the way.
When I was a kid, I never knew what to say to someone who was depressed, so often I would say things like “everything will be okay”. If you have depression, I just want to make it clear that despite what I’m about to write, things can and will get better, and I don’t mean to imply that they won’t.
It took me a while to learn that saying “everything will be okay” wasn’t actually very helpful, even if it was/is true. It took a certain friend to point this out to me. I gave them my #1 Counselling Jewel and they threw it back in my face.
“Don’t say that,” they said. I paused for a second, both out of confusion and frustration.
“Well, what should I say?” I asked.
Then they paused. “I don’t know,” they said, “…Maybe that you understand?”
So I said that… and I kept on saying it any time we had similar conversations.
I’m not sure I did understand properly, though. It wasn’t until I had gone through my own hardships and come out the other side of them that I could have understood what it’s like to want to just sit in your room, in the dark and do absolutely nothing and see absolutely no one because it’s just too hard. Now, saying “I understand” is only something I say when I actually do understand.
Eeyore has taught me both a lot about how people fighting depression see and feel about the world, as well as how a good friend should treat them. I didn’t realise until I was older that he’s probably clinically depressed… But I mean, just look at him.
Awww… bless his heart!
Eeyore’s friends don’t tell him to “cheer up, buttercup”. They do, however, include him in things, treat him as one of the gang, and generally try and understand and empathise with him. None of them get frustrated with him for being gloomy or depressed, because they know that he just can’t help it. Instead, they show understanding and empathy. They always come through for him, which is what warms your heart most when you watch the show.
One of the most famous Winnie the Pooh episodes is the one where Eeyore loses his tail, and all of his friends help him to find it. Just as Eeyore is bemoaning the fact that he will have to spend the rest of his life tailless, his friends show up with his tail!
He’s so cute I can’t even right now.
If your friend or family member has depression, just be there and come through. Try and understand how they feel and help if they ask you. It’s always a good idea to help them find professional help as well.
If you have depression, then please do speak to someone about it and please know that you are so loved. There are people who can help you and will understand what you’re going through. You’re not alone.
So much platonic love and hugs! Have another Eeyore gif, just for fun.